We’ve all had the experiences of feeling jealousy and envy in one form or another. May it be in a relationship, with a friend, family member or a stranger – it’s a common energy that people experience. Left unattended this energy can be extremely detrimental and even become dangerous.

Jealousy is based in insecurity in oneself. Of course a common jealousy is in romantic relationships with fear of the person cheating on us. This could be caused by a painful past experience or simply by fear of a possible experience. Either way, it needs to be dealt with from within. Understanding your worth and developing trust in yourself is the foundation. First you need to believe you’re worthy of love and that love comes from within. A person we’re in a relationship with can be an excellent mirror for us to see the love within us, but they are just that, a mirror. They are not the Source of our love.

Keeping this in mind we can understand that if for some reason this person isn’t capable of being true to you, they don’t deserve to be with you. Assuming of course that a monogamous relationship is what you both want. We are all worthy of being loved by someone that will respect and treat us the way we wish to be treated. If we actually believe that in our hearts, there is no reason to be jealous. If someone were to show us that they’re incapable of being true, we would leave and find someone who is. I’m not saying it wouldn’t be a difficult experience…if we deeply cared for this person, it would be. There are even some situations where forgiveness can come in if it’s true and both sides are open to it.

You see, the trust we seek isn’t completely in the other person. Of course we’d like to choose someone who seems like their values are in alignment with ours but at the end of the day, you never know for sure if something will happen in the future. People change, situations change, the only person we can and need to trust 100% is ourselves. That we’ll be able to handle it if something happens. When we stand in the strength and trust in ourselves, we can navigate life’s twists and turns. If we put our stability and happiness in the hands of another…we’re in trouble and jealousy is the warning signal that our trust is in the wrong place or we simply don’t have any at all.

Just as we turned into ourselves to find the answers to jealousy, we can do the same with envy because the energies are basically the same. If you envy someone else’s life or what they have, it’s simply a lack of confidence in yourself to acquire what you want. You don’t feel good enough. Or you’re simply focused too much on what other people have and not focused enough on the blessings in your own life. If you’re happy with your life, continue to do more of the same while counting your blessings. If you’re not, do something different to give yourself a different result.

You are in control of your life, your happiness and what you do. No one else is. There’s no such thing as lack, so just because someone has wonderful things, doesn’t mean you can’t have wonderful things as well. Turn within, do the inside work and your external life will reflect the love, trust, peace and happiness that’s emanating from the inside. You are the master of your own destiny, trust yourself, surround yourself with good people and move towards your joy!